We have had a Film, couple of books,dozens of jokes and hundreds of Men ruminating over the Question “What Women “Want” “?
While I agree that it is a million dollar question but has anyone ever wondered what women “need”?
I guess I found the answer to this one...Read on to know…:-)
Ok, so here is the flash back…
Last year around this time I was attending a 5 hour class on defensive driving, a mandate for obtaining drivers license in the state of NY.
There was a break of 20 minutes in between the class.
It was frigid outside and I didn’t have company so I decided to stay back in the class.But the teacher wouldn’t allow anyone to remain in the classroom during the break.
So I walked up to the supermarket in the next block to idle away my time browsing stuff.As I entered the store I saw a man smiling at me.
“American culture- You smile at strangers” I thought and returned the smile.
I went to the Indian grocery aisle and was looking at some stuff…when that “smiling” Man came over and asked-“Anything I can help you with, Mam”
I replied “NO thanks” and continued looking at the items on the shelf.
He then asked “Are you married?”… Now I was dazed.
I gave him a stern look and said “Sorry?”
He went ahead and remarked “You are beautiful”
What followed was a gush of adrenaline…I flee from that scene. Yes, it was the “flight hormone”. But the man kept repeating “excuse me- tell me are you married”
I immediately called husband and told him to come over to this place ASAP.
Later when I reached home I was contemplating over what had happened.
I always though I was independent and self sufficient.
But that day I felt like I wasn’t and my immediate response to the situation calling for husband proved that I was so much dependent.
It wasn’t that something like this never happened to me before,
(For that matter almost every women faces this kind of situation at some point in time, intensity varies)
So what was different this time….it was the first time in USA and also after a long time which got me all flustered.
When I discussed this with Pamela, my friend from college- she told me that it has happened to her in the USA many a times. She also added that reason it had happened to me the first time was because probably it was the first time I was alone, without husband near by. And I realized it was so true.
So what was preventing me from being completely independent, I pondered?
what was it that was lacking ?
It was then I found the answer to the Question “What women need”
“A karate course and pepper spray” !!
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ha ha ha!!!reminds me of another incident.. we were having dinner at IIM mess two years back.n one of our friends who was at a high posn in army seemed really pissed off n said "are jo mere biwi kehti hai vohi karta hu phir bhi khush nahi hoti".Aadat se majboor i spoke in between.."bolne ke baad kyu karte ho.pehle karna chahiye..bolne ke baad nahi kiya to gunah hai aur kiya toh its of no value becoz she has already said that."
"itni si baat is gadhe ko kyu nahi samajh aati"shouted his wife in front of 70 stunned people...
so i guess this is what women reallywant
The question still remains.."What women want?" If she doesnt tell then how will her husband know what she wants.She expects him to know by magic and just do it? NO wonder the question still holds it's Aura till date! :)
Hi Sapna,
Hope u r doing good. As far as my knowledge, the reason behind women being so dependent is due to our culture. In our old traditional culture, women are brought up dependently - in childhood dependent on father - in adulthood dependent on husband - in old age dependent on son. But I think this should change and truly speaking it has changed a lot now!! For instance, if you consider my family, my sisters are very independent and myself & my father depend mostly on my sisters!!
Lovely narration.
What women need. A little courage. Ability to reply to strangers.
Why didn't you respond to him? Or at least should have asked him to mind his business.
On a lighter note:
What women do not need. A mobile phone. Ability to disturb their husbands :P
I would say karate, pepper spray or any other form of self defense is absolutely necessary for any individual (be it man/woman).. In this scenario though I doubt either would have been necessary, a simple 'Yes, I am a married woman and my husband is a phone call away' would have solved the issue.
Courage, self defense and presence of mind is what everybody needs.. not just women!
R
PS: stumbled across your blog and had to state my POV.
@Senthil-Am doing well- thanks for stopping by. Yes its changing these days and for the better.
@Arun-I like whatever you say on a lighter note. BTW I didn’t know you smoke! :P
@ Mr/Ms R -Thanks for stumbling on my blog and many more thanks for dropping a comment.
I totally agree with you that the most sensible thing that I could have done then was to tell exactly what u mentioned –“……..Husband phone call away”.
But like I stated in my blog I totally panicked as something of that sort was happening to me after a long time. Of course if it were college days it would have been a totally different story, when I was more in touch with things like that ha ha: D
Anyways thanks for stopping by and I would love to hear your POV on my other posts as well :-)
u know things become differnt after marriage. Take for example, If u walk along a street alone,so many faces would turn to u, but if u walk with ur husband, see the difference.
and thats why we feel so protected with them..... and now so much dependent.
wowieee... oh i had no idea bout this blog.....
cooooll
well!
it's quiet true that today women are independent and they are aware of what is right or wrong.... but there is one thing which is common in every human. you always likes someone standing besides. now thats a different thing that some express n some don't.
well di, it happens with me too. when i first came to pune.... i portrayed myself as a very strong n independent girl. coz to live in a completely new city, without getting away with the spoilt companies.... its compulsory. but the day i got hooked up n i that realized someone cares for me so much suddenly that strong n nt so easily approachable girl became a kid in front of him....
WHAT A GIRL WANTS...???
i guess along with karate training n a pepper spray...... just an assuredness of someone is there for u .... dont worry n face the world......
:) :)
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